Missed Connections


You’re probably thinking this post is going to be about a funny ad on Craigslist or a lovely dovey shoulda coulda woulda story, right? Wrong! Gotcha! This post is actually about losing the Internet connection in your house.

Long story short, last week there was a crazy storm in our neighborhood and my parent’s lost the Internet connection in their house. And, since my parents don’t believe in cable or smart phones, and don’t have AT&T or Charter, they’re left to rely on a dinky ma and pa computer place to supply their Internet. So, the next morning when we called the company to ask them what was wrong, we found out that lightening had apparently struck a service tower, and it was too windy outside for someone to safely climb up the tower to fix the problem….grrrreat.

Now, me being me, I’d like to think that the Internet doesn’t rule my life…at least not to the extent that it does some of my other friends. In fact, I’m really not a big technology person in general. Sure, I use the computer to surf the Internet and I work a bit with Word and Excel, but as a millennial, most people my age think there’s something seriously wrong with me because I don’t have a smart phone and I’ve never touched an Ipod. Do I resent technology? Not really, but I’ve seen what it can do to a person!

But, the Internet at my parent’s house was out for 3 WHOLE DAYS!! I had to resort to taking my laptop to the library to get work done, and when I came home, I tried to leave and find other activities to fill my time as soon as possible. But, even when I wasn’t in the house, I found myself thinking about how many new emails I had, or who had new updates for me on Facebook. I think that because I’m a job seeker, I’ve become more attached to my email and personal websites. I don’t want to miss a posting, and I certainly want to respond to a potential employer sooner rather than later!

Times like this make me think back to the 90s, before the Internet, instant messaging, and so on was really a big deal. It’s hard to imagine what I did during the day to fill my free time, but I think I need to start writing some ideas down in case a situation like this happens again!… Ok, even reading that last sentence made me cringe. Really? The Internet has become so important to me that I need to make a list of things to resort to in case I lose my connection? Ugh!

So, I guess one of my resolutions this year is to make certain that I pull myself away from the Internet more often every day, and not become so flustered if someone tries to get a hold of me and they can’t because I’ve lost my connection. I think that at this day and age, it’s important for all of us to leave the Internet alone when we have some free time and try to resort back to what we did pre-Internet days in order to help us all stay active. I mean, you can be connected without an Internet connection, right? It’s called talking to people!! Most of the best days that I’ve ever had in my life happened in the 90s and when I’ve been out and about doing things with people. Sure, Internet time can be a great way to wind down, but do we really need to be buried in it during our free time?

What’s your stance? How has the Internet changed your life? Am I crazy for wanting to disconnect more often?

Granny Smith – over and out

26 thoughts on “Missed Connections

  1. Obviously, the Internet has been great for a lot of things but at the same time, I feel like it has really cheapened some things. Take Facebook for example: how friends does the average Facebook user have? I’m guilty of having friends on there that I probably wouldn’t actually consider a friend. It just goes to show that the word has become cheap with the advancement of technology. I don’t know how applicable it is, but to quote Mr. Feeny from Boy Meets World “Gutenberg’s generation thirsted for a new book every six months. Your generation gets a new web page every six seconds. How do you use this technology? To beat King Koopa and rescue the princess. Shame on you! You get what you deserve.”
    Great thoughts on what our world has become! 🙂

  2. You easily get addicted, that’s true. In every class there is at least one student who misses out on his exams and seldom attends lessons – because he’s playing games on the Internet. (So far it’s always been a “he”…)In my family we try to stay out of it every vacation. Do not bring the computer! Eat, chat, play games, take long hikes, etc. That’s REAL life.

  3. Wow. I get what you’re saying, I truly do. Yet, when I read, “Times like this make me think back to the 90s,” you could have knocked me over with a feather. I was born in 1950, so I really experienced the technical revolution. I had an Osborne (look it up). I was technically pretty savvy up until about 5 years ago when everything simply exploded. I’ve been left in the dust, sorry to say. I just can’t keep up anymore.

    I do my best to spend one day a week away from my computer and actually read a book because I still love the feel of pages turning in my hand. I hope that feeling never goes away, and I hope that others allow themselves the experience of sitting with a beloved or unexplored book as well. Libraries and bookstores are filled with treasures to be yearned for, relaxed with and mulled over endlessly on just the type of days you describe.

    Please try it next time – or even on a sunny day at the beach – and pass the suggestion along to friends. Keep the tradition alive. It’s a great way to connect – with information, with authors and with friends. 🙂

  4. I don’t do Facebook or any other social media besides blogging. Last Fall I took two excellent MOMA (Museum of Modern Art) classes through the internet. And it did change my life, because as an assignment we had to do a blog, and I have been blogging ever since.

  5. I think regular Internet ‘detoxes’ are probably a good idea (he says, after spending most of this evening online, and yesterday, and …). The scary thing is, you could spend 24/7 online and still not scratch the surface of the vast entity of the web. Best thing is to back off and do something else for a while. It’s one reason I still like to read proper paper books (though I read e-books too) – you can find loads of free stuff to read online, but it’s kind of liberating to look at something that’s not going to crash, need recharging or ‘ping’ annoyingly with another distracting message.

  6. I actually have disconnected more this past week and it’s been such a blessing. I realized that a huge part of my depression was coming from staring at a computer screen all day long. It’s really made a difference in how I have felt!

  7. We regularly have internet interruptions in Mumbai so now have 2 supposedly ‘high speed’ services (ie anywhere between 50 kpbs and 2 mbps). Even still, there are many times when both services are down… however as most of my work is ‘virtual’ keeping connected is part of my responsibility as a professional!

    That being said, my partner and I regularly ‘detox’ from the land of the connected. This weekend took a trip out of the city for cultural retreat – all night of theatre, music and dance performances in a place with NO internet or network connectivity at all!

    Was quite lovely switching off the smart phone and just kicking back to enjoy the 13 hours of performances, food and most of all creative company.

      • It was a divine weekend except bloody cold! The performances quality were all superb. The 1st play was acted by sanitation workers from Pune – historical play on a social education activist then a dinner break. Then an exquisite Odissi dancer followed by Rajasthani folk singers who were hilarious too – had folks dancing, clapping and singing (and not just to keep warm!). Madbeth comedy had everyone in stitches and then the morning raga as the sun rose was simply magical.

        If one is going to detox from the land of the connected – this is the way to do it!

    • Mumbai has the same connections as rural Ireland! Too funny (not really, at times). I can switch off for a day or two, but then I feel guilty that I’ve not caught up on all the blogs I read! And no way could I ever not have the iPhone camera – I barely use it as a phone or anything else, but I love having a small good camera with me at all times!

  8. I totally agree with you (and am in a similar situation of being the same age and trying to get away from technology). I downgraded from a smart phone to a “dumb” phone (I’m also frugal and didn’t want to pay for what I could get on my internet at home) and would honestly like to just “lose” it most days.
    I try to take a day off from technology a week – I work on the computer and phone all day so by the evenings I have absolutely no interest in any of it. But that’s the way we communicate now so unless I want to be a stick in the mud, I have to find a way to balance. I’m still trying to figure it out too.

  9. I take Sundays off from the ‘net every other week or so. But if I was job hunting, nope. Can’t afford to waste an hour these days! But I don’t use a computer hardly at all at work, so they don’t grate on my nerves so much any more. Plus I love my iPad, it does so much and is so easy to see!

  10. I try to not be addicted to the internet, but starting this blog hasn’t helped. Other than this I pay bills, and check gmail. My husband is job hunting right now and I know how important it becomes to keep up on email. Thanks for the follow!

  11. No, you are not crazy… I should take your lead and do it more often. Currently, up to my neck in old dog problems and trying to rebuild our antique home does keep me pretty busy at the moment. Thank you for sharing, AND for the visit and the follow! 😀

  12. Firstly, thank you for following my blog. We newbies have a special appreciation for our newest following.

    No to the point of my comment on this post. I have found the internet to be both full of treasures as well as smeared with dung throughout. However, regardless of this, somehow it becomes addicting. Thus when it is taken away without our choosing we are noticeably unhappy, cranky and simply down in the dumps. We like to be in control of our world and when the Internet decides to take a vacation we go on a riot.

    I for one see this as a problem. We don’t allow our minds the space to reflect with all the social media and commercialism blaring loudly everywhere every day. Taking a “media” fast, or a internet detox, or a few days without our phones is wonderfully freeing. Without willingly, intentionally letting go of the noise around us, we can’t realize the horrific addition levels we have acquired.

    Kudos to not following the masses and letting yourself live a free-er life-style.

  13. I like the internet for research purposes and of course for blogging. Internet was important for me when I started my degree. Now I have completed I can go for days with out the need for it. It’s actually nice to be able to read for pleasure in book form as opposed to academic journals etc. But I guess life without internet would seem strange because it has a multitude of uses.

  14. For times when the power goes, a week ago, I learned you can use those really ancient phones that actually, you know, plug into the wall, and you have to spin the dial to call someone. I mean, it couldn’t be much more than 20 years ago. I remember back when I was little, my parents had one. You should definitely get one for yourself and your parents just in case. And you know, you could even use it on a daily basis!

    Also, one of the best ways to continuously keep in touch with someone is actually by calling them instead of texting. If it really bothers the person that you would rather talk instead of texting, then it goes to show then there is no point in talking to them in the first place (unless they are you employer and so forth). Or instead of just instant messaging, you could talk and webcam at the same time with that other person.

    But… geez, life without the internet or computer feels like so long ago.

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