A Different Kind of ‘I Miss You’

This past week, my boyfriend Matt embarked on a journey to Hong Kong for business. I missed him A LOT, but I didn’t realize how the ‘art of missing someone’ can have many different layers.

In general, Matt and I live about 45 minutes from each other and see one another once or twice a week (depending on our schedules). When he’s not around during the week, I miss him and wonder how he’s doing and what he’s been up to. But, when he traveled to the other side of the world, I missed him in a different sense of the word.

When Matt’s 45 minutes away, we have email, text, phone calls, you name it, to help keep us connected. When he was overseas, his phone didn’t work and the only form of communication we had was with Facebook. And, seeing as how Hong Kong is 13 hours ahead of our time zone, our communication consisted of shooting a message to each other every day for the other to read during their free time.

It was hard knowing that I couldn’t pick up the phone and text, “what are you up to?” and get an instant response, let alone any response. It was especially hard if I had a bad day or wanted some advice and realized I couldn’t reach out. I was lucky that he was able to use Facebook to connect. I was worried that I wouldn’t be able to hear from him at all during the trip and was going to have to sit at home twiddling my thumbs until he made it home.

Needless to say when he came back, I felt a huge sense of relief. I felt a burden of worry lifted off of my shoulders, and I couldn’t wait to hear about his trip and wrap my arms around him. Knowing that he’s safe and home makes me feel amazing.

This instance also made me think about what family members of individuals in the army go through every year. I can’t even begin to imagine what it’s like waking up every morning knowing that your loved one is on the other side of the world facing potential danger and that you might not see them again. I give a lot of credit to those families and thank every member or our armed forces. I went a week without much contact with my significant other, I can’t imagine going for a year (or multiple years) and having the threat of danger weighing over the situation.

In what other ways have you missed someone?

Granny Smith – over and out

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11 thoughts on “A Different Kind of ‘I Miss You’

  1. Glad your significant other is back. I also want to thank you for following my blog on papermudandme. I will be following you, and who knows, we may correspond enough that we will miss not getting a post. – blessings and Aloha – pjs/

  2. My husband is a geologist. Presently he commutes to work daily and is home each night. However, there are times when he needs to travel to remote regions for weeks at a time. I know exactly what you mean about different layers of “I miss you.” Sometimes I look forward, sometimes even crave time to myself, but for extended periods, it’s a kind of loss that I don’t care for.

    Thanks for the follow, Granny. I appreciate it.

  3. HI- thanks for following my blog and leading me to yours.
    I have traveled to a few remote locations leaving me isolated from speaking to my love back home, actually there was no communication whatsoever. Never easy, especially for the one away.

  4. In my younger years (and first marriage), I was both IN the Navy AND married to the Navy, with a husband stationed on a ship that deployed for six-month trips once a year. While I enjoyed the space, the ‘distance’ was enormous…. long before FB, Twitter, even texting. Glad your other half is back now! 🙂

    Thanks for finding & following my blog, too. 😀

  5. Good that you’re back together! In my case, my husband and I have been on the opposite sides of the globe for almost three years. He’s in the North Pole while I’m in the Tropics. What we are really hoping to achieve next year is to finally live together there in Canada when he gets his PR. What, I mean who, helped me cope with his absence is our darling son whose just so adorable and serves as our motivation to continue just a little more sacrifice.

    Thanks also for following my blog. All the best!

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