We Are Getting Back Together

I heard a quote once that said, “Getting back together with your ex is like taking a shower, getting out, and putting on yesterday’s dirty underwear.” Mind you, the first time I heard this, I had recently gotten back together with my ex, and I wasn’t sure we would survive the second round. My whole life, I had heard stories of individuals getting together, falling apart, and then coming back to one another and thought, how stupid. You obviously must have left this buffoon for a good reason. Why are you rehashing old wounds? Find someone who you actually want to stick with! But, like many other times in my life, my opinion came back to bite me in the ass, and I found myself involved in a situation that I had been judging others for. I loved my ex, and we didn’t break up because one person was physically or emotionally abusive. We broke up because we both needed to find out who we were without the other person around.  I spent a lot of time as a single lady figuring out what I was capable of and what I wanted. I had a lot more time on my hands and reconnected with old friends and past hobbies. I loved it, but I also hated it. I realized that life was more exciting and challenging (in a good way) with my ex. And, I realized that I was completely selfish. I didn’t want anyone else to be able to enjoy him. I wanted him back for myself. He was/is such a giving, caring, and funny person. I wanted those moments back. I didn’t want to spend the rest of my life with just anyone. I wanted him. That’s when I realized that being stubborn and sticking with your old ideas isn’t always the best policy. Of course, like with anything, it depends on the situation and circumstances. However, what we had was good. I just needed to fight harder to keep it going. There have been many instances in my life where I’ve started something (ice skating, learning a foreign language, etc.) and quit half-way through because I realized the amount of time I was putting into it wasn’t worth the investment. However, he is worth the investment. And, bringing him back was one of the hardest things I’ve ever worked for. It took me 18 months to get him to realize that we could do this. We could be together and make it work. And, that time invested was certainly well spent. So, next time you’re offered a second chance…think about it first, of course…but, more importantly, think about all of the positive things that could happen if you said “yes!” Granny Smith – over and out

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22 thoughts on “We Are Getting Back Together

  1. I agree. Sometimes second chances or ‘do-overs’ are completely necessary for life to work out right. I went back to college many many years after the first time I tried to get a degree. And the second time I succeeded b/c I was more mature, patient, etc.! So when my ex came back around I likened it to that second chance.

    Best of luck with your beau 🙂

  2. I am glad you took that second chance and you are so right. You should not just say no to second chances because it might not work out or because people think it’s stupid…

  3. Aww! This is so sweet! I’m happy for you, internet stranger, for what if it’d been too late and he was with someone else? It’s great to hear that love can be rekindled. ♥ 🙂

    • Oh gosh, trust me, I’ve thought about it. I would see pictures of him hanging out with other friends (guys and girls) and get jealous of the women that were able to spend time with him.

      Thank you for your comment!

  4. Well if my wife and I split, after a year I would be begging her to come back. I would be completely out of socks and underwear.

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