If You Were Going to Die at Midnight…

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In light of the last post I wrote, “Wanna Play 20 Questions?…Sort of…” I’ve decided that I’m going to pick a few of those questions and answer them in future blog posts..like this one!

Today’s question, “If you were going to die at midnight, what would you be doing at 11:45 p.m.?”

When thinking about this question, a million other ones came to mind…such as, “how far in advance do I know that I’m going to die at midnight on such and such a day?..24 hours? A week?” Because, if I knew far enough in advance, I’d be able to call people up, tell them how much they meant to me, and then plan the sickest farewell party EVER!!..But, what if I found out at 11 p.m. day of? You can’t exactly rally the troops together, go through your bucket list, or make a lot of phone calls.

But, if I had to decide what I would be doing at 11:45 p.m., regardless of how far in advance I knew I was going to be gone at midnight, I’d have to say that I’d keep it simple. I would want to be in my bedroom in my parent’s house. And, I’d want to be lying on my bed, because I LOVE my bed! Seated around me would be my parents, brother, and dog. In bed with me, holding on to me, would be my boyfriend. We would all be talking, reminiscing, and they would hopefully reassure me that the life I lived was a good one, and that everything was going to be ok.

Now, to be honest, I had to debate about this a bit. On one hand, I would want them there with me. But, on the other, would I really want them to see me die? Would I really want my boyfriend to be holding on to me as I took my last breath? That kind of stuff changes your LIFE. I’ve known many individuals that have seen a loved one on their last leg, and it’s not pretty. But, on the other hand, I wouldn’t want to be alone, and I wouldn’t want them to leave the room shortly beforehand knowing what I was going through on the other side of the door.

But, I guess what I’m really getting at is, there’s nothing sweeter in this world than family; and I have the absolute best. At the end of your life, it’s not going to be your possessions that you cling to, it’s going to be the people you love most. That’s why I’m such a huge advocate of work, life, balance. Yes, you have to fill your time here with something. But, if that something constantly causes you to miss out on time with the one’s you love most…is it really worth it? Because, at the end of your life, you’ll look back and think of everything you’ve ever wanted to do, and you’ll probably make a checklist, as in, “did I get to do this? Yes or No” and then move on. You’ll also probably wish that you were more vocal with your opinions, spent more time with family and friends, and that you didn’t work so hard.

Why do I know this? Because I’ve read different studies on what individuals greatest regrets were while they were on their deathbed. And the above are all of those are things the wished they could’ve clung on to while they were living. So, why wait? Apply what you want to do today, because as far as I’m concerned, there are no do-overs.

So, what would you be doing at 11:45 p.m. if you knew you were going to die at midnight?

Granny Smith – over and out

How to be Happy!

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Because I’m a loud, rambunctious, in-your-face type of gal, I’m attracted to others that are very similar..so it shouldn’t come as a surprise when I say that I’m a huge fan of Jenny McCarthy! Seriously, how could you not be? She’s smart, funny, and is simply gorgeous.

Since I’m such a big fan of hers, I read her blog on Chicago Splash’s website daily! I always have a takeaway when I read one of Jenny’s posts, but one of her most recent posts REALLY struck a chord with me. It was all about how to be happy. I know, I know, you’ve already heard this before, and there are plenty of articles and “I think I know everything” speakers who will tell you that they know what the key to happiness is, and that you should listen to them. But, this article wasn’t like that at all! It was so refreshing!

Intrigued? Good, I thought you might be.

So, what did Jenny say was the secret to happiness after all?

Answer: By making peace with the present moment.

I can only guess that some of you are just as confused as I was when I read this the first time. So, what does “making peace with the present moment” really mean and how can you do it?

It’s all about the practice of “being present.” You can practice being present by becoming aware of your thoughts and emotions as they happen. This will help you see that your mind is often stuck in the future or running back to the past to find an issue to worry about. When you become the watcher of your thoughts, you are still in the present moment. You are watching the stories in your head instead of getting lost in them or believing them. The more you become the observer and not the creator of your thoughts, the more you find yourself in the present moment. And guess what? Peace and happiness live in the present moment.

That’s the secret. Become the observer of your thoughts. Watch them play out. Don’t live them out.

So, stay present and be happy!

Granny Smith- over and out

“Work, Life, Balance” or “Work, Life, Blend?”

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I stare at my desk, then back at my bed, then back at my desk again. Currently, I’m sitting on my bed with my personal laptop and debating if I should continue to write this post, or dive back into what I was working on earlier, items for my job that are due next week..

Unfortunately, I’m not the only person who has to make these kinds of decisions on a regular basis. It’s a Friday night..and look where I ended up. A recent report by the Bureau of Labor Statistics illustrates that American’s spend about 8.8 hours per day at work, and 7.5 hours sleeping, while the rest of their hours are spent eating, taking care of others, or for leisure activities. So basically, this means that many Americans are spending a majority of their day doing exactly what they don’t want to be doing..Don’t get me wrong, I love to sleep and I’m one of the biggest sleep advocates around..but I’m not talking about “wasted” hours sleeping, I’m talking about wasted hours working. 

In thinking about the hours that I spend on a daily basis committed to my own job, I thought that the average “8.8 hours” was a little low. Let’s take today for example, I left my home for work at 6:30 a.m., got to work at 7:15 a.m., and left the office at 5:45 p.m., no lunch or breaks included. And it’s not like I have the type of job where I can casually check my facebook or personal email!..Seriously, “ain’t nobody got time for that!” And it doesn’t stop there, most nights, like a lot of overworked Americans, I end up bringing my work laptop home, and drilling out a few projects. 

Now you may be thinking, “but Granny Smith, I’m completely in love with my job, and this post has absolutely nothing to do with me..thanks for wasting my time!” But, hang in there, because your thought is EXACTLY what I want to talk about. It’s a little something that I think perfectly describes “Work, Life, Balance vs. Work, Life, Blend.”

For those of you that have been in the workforce for awhile, or know of anything workplace related, you’ve probably heard of “Work, Life, Balance,” aka- once the clock strikes 5 p.m., goodbye, and work is left exactly where it should be left, at WORK. Some would argue that the traditional idea of “work, life, balance” has gone out the window. Or, that if this definition rings true for your current situation, then you have a “job,” not a “career.” 

So, now that you know or have been refreshed to the idea of “work, life, balance,” let me introduce you to the newest sensation, “work, life, blend.” Work, life, blend isn’t about coming in to work at 9 a.m., talking a half hour lunch, and leaving at 5 p.m., it’s about putting in those long hours, and even weekend hours to start projects, finish projects, and add a dash of perfectionism to current projects. But the real catch is that you love it, you crave it, and sometimes, you don’t even notice that it’s happening! This concept is for the person who lives, loves, and breathes what they do, day in and day out. It’s for the journalists who wake up early to review their stories before publication, or can’t fall asleep until 4 a.m., because they’re too giddy about one of their new story ideas. “Work, Life, Blend” applies to the type of people that are genuinely interested in what they do and can’t get their hands on enough information regarding their industry, or how to thrive in their current position.

Now, I’m not saying that all people who work the basic 9-5 are lazy, or that people who spend time outside of the office working on office items are crazy, overworked, slobs. What’ I’m saying is, is that I’ve realized through my own trials and tribulations with jobs, that you should ultimately strive to have a job that you wouldn’t mind incorporating into your daily life, or thinking about outside of work. More than likely, you’re going to be asked to take on extra projects and assignments in your current position, and if you don’t care about the content that you’re writing, researching, or working with, it’s going to come through in the finished product. And plus, why would you want to spend a significant portion of your day and life doing something that you just don’t care about?

It’s not always easy to find the perfect job, because there could be many factors such as timing and location that mess with opportunity. But, I’m not saying that you should sit around and wait for the “right time” either. Too much of our time is spent doing things that we don’t want to do because we feel that we HAVE to do them. And that’s one of the many reasons why I created this blog; it isn’t something that I HAVE to do, but I WANT to do. Eventually, I want to be a writer and share my thoughts on a much larger scale than just a dopey wordpress blog (sorry wordpress)! And right now, I feel too censored and restricted in my current position to express my honest thoughts and feelings. So, here I am now, ready and perfectly able to say whatever I’m thinking or feeling… without getting human resources involved! 😉 

In the end, it’s going to be the small steps that you take today that will end up making you a happier person tomorrow.

Granny Smith-over and out