How to be Happy!

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Because I’m a loud, rambunctious, in-your-face type of gal, I’m attracted to others that are very similar..so it shouldn’t come as a surprise when I say that I’m a huge fan of Jenny McCarthy! Seriously, how could you not be? She’s smart, funny, and is simply gorgeous.

Since I’m such a big fan of hers, I read her blog on Chicago Splash’s website daily! I always have a takeaway when I read one of Jenny’s posts, but one of her most recent posts REALLY struck a chord with me. It was all about how to be happy. I know, I know, you’ve already heard this before, and there are plenty of articles and “I think I know everything” speakers who will tell you that they know what the key to happiness is, and that you should listen to them. But, this article wasn’t like that at all! It was so refreshing!

Intrigued? Good, I thought you might be.

So, what did Jenny say was the secret to happiness after all?

Answer: By making peace with the present moment.

I can only guess that some of you are just as confused as I was when I read this the first time. So, what does “making peace with the present moment” really mean and how can you do it?

It’s all about the practice of “being present.” You can practice being present by becoming aware of your thoughts and emotions as they happen. This will help you see that your mind is often stuck in the future or running back to the past to find an issue to worry about. When you become the watcher of your thoughts, you are still in the present moment. You are watching the stories in your head instead of getting lost in them or believing them. The more you become the observer and not the creator of your thoughts, the more you find yourself in the present moment. And guess what? Peace and happiness live in the present moment.

That’s the secret. Become the observer of your thoughts. Watch them play out. Don’t live them out.

So, stay present and be happy!

Granny Smith- over and out

Live life without regret

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So, if you read my previous post, you know that I’m a bit of a worry wart..ok, so I’m a HUGE worry wart, and letting go is something that I’ve been working on a lot lately.

Since entering the workforce, one of my biggest worries is that I’m wasting my time doing something that I don’t really like, thus, at the end of my life, I’ll look back and think, “why didn’t I just take a chance and do what I really wanted to do?” 

When I was in college, I took a stress management course, which was more like a “how to live your life” course, and it honestly changed my life. I used to be a super perfectionist, and now, I’m a bit of an imperfectionist. I still try my best at everything (don’t get me wrong), but I try not to give as many fucks as I used to. 

One lecture that my professor had during that course has forever changed my life, and I think about it on a daily basis, and unfortunately, it’s why I worry most days. 

My professor gave a lecture entitled, “The top 5 regrets of the dying.” Ever since my professor gave that lecture, I constantly think to myself, “why am I doing this?” and, “is this something I’m going to regret doing/not doing when I’m on my deathbed?”

The top 5 regrets of the dying are:

1.  I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.

2. I wish I hadn’t worked so hard.

3. I wish I’d had the courage to express my feelings.

4. I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.

5. I wish that I had let myself be happier.

So, with that being said, it’s been my personal goal to start living the way I want to, and to make sure that I don’t worry so much about pleasing other people and giving up what I really want to do because “society doesn’t think it’s a good idea.”

But, I want to know, what are your biggest regrets? What are you going to do to make sure that you live your life the way YOU want to?

Granny Smith- over and out