I heard a quote once that said, “Getting back together with your ex is like taking a shower, getting out, and putting on yesterday’s dirty underwear.” Mind you, the first time I heard this, I had recently gotten back together with my ex, and I wasn’t sure we would survive the second round. My whole life, I had heard stories of individuals getting together, falling apart, and then coming back to one another and thought, how stupid. You obviously must have left this buffoon for a good reason. Why are you rehashing old wounds? Find someone who you actually want to stick with! But, like many other times in my life, my opinion came back to bite me in the ass, and I found myself involved in a situation that I had been judging others for. I loved my ex, and we didn’t break up because one person was physically or emotionally abusive. We broke up because we both needed to find out who we were without the other person around. I spent a lot of time as a single lady figuring out what I was capable of and what I wanted. I had a lot more time on my hands and reconnected with old friends and past hobbies. I loved it, but I also hated it. I realized that life was more exciting and challenging (in a good way) with my ex. And, I realized that I was completely selfish. I didn’t want anyone else to be able to enjoy him. I wanted him back for myself. He was/is such a giving, caring, and funny person. I wanted those moments back. I didn’t want to spend the rest of my life with just anyone. I wanted him. That’s when I realized that being stubborn and sticking with your old ideas isn’t always the best policy. Of course, like with anything, it depends on the situation and circumstances. However, what we had was good. I just needed to fight harder to keep it going. There have been many instances in my life where I’ve started something (ice skating, learning a foreign language, etc.) and quit half-way through because I realized the amount of time I was putting into it wasn’t worth the investment. However, he is worth the investment. And, bringing him back was one of the hardest things I’ve ever worked for. It took me 18 months to get him to realize that we could do this. We could be together and make it work. And, that time invested was certainly well spent. So, next time you’re offered a second chance…think about it first, of course…but, more importantly, think about all of the positive things that could happen if you said “yes!” Granny Smith – over and out
Has there ever come a time when your boss introduces a new policy and all you can think is, “Really? I’m not 12 anymore!” …Oh, for the love of micromanagement.
This past week, my company introduced a new policy that had me feeling like I was back in elementary school. Now, I’m not saying that every time a company changes a policy, adds one, drops one, or tries to evolve, that it’s a bad thing. But, sometimes, just when you think you’re finally getting the quality treatment that you, as a working adult, should receive in the workplace, you get kicked in the crotch as a reminder of how little you are.
Interestingly enough, the new, demeaning policy that’s taken place at my company reminded me of an article I read about a month ago by Ilya Pozin, CEO of Open Me, in regards to treating employees like adults by providing unlimited vacation days.
The article argues that having a company policy of unlimited vacation days is one way to improve company culture, impact employee retention, and establish employee responsibility.
Not only does Pozin explain why it’s a great idea to establish this new policy, but he gives readers a step-by-step process that they can utilize to see if this policy is right for their company, and how to implement it.
To read all about this innovative policy, click here.
Would you want your company to provide unlimited vacation days?
What do you think are the positives and negatives to this approach?
Granny Smith- over and out